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Toxic relationships. They’re something that happens to people and they do have a toxic
effect on your creativity as well, or at least they can.
Taken to an extremely toxic relationships can turn violently abusive. I actually dealt
with that from a family member for several years. And I was really only around as long as
I was because I had medical issues that prevented me from supporting myself and that meant
there was very high price tag for leaving.
And I'm not talking about money I'm just I'm talking about in terms of the problems I
would incur as a direct result of doing so was an incredibly high price tag. But it
was worth it because the abuse from this person was that bad.
So when I left I had been stolen from by the same family member, had involved the police
because of the thefts and the violence against me and to top it all off I was undergoing
a massive spiritual crisis at that time, and another family member that I was living
with at that time, who would have given literally anything to see me convert to Christianity
suddenly would do literally anything to prevent me from having access to any thing
to do with Christianity.
Prior to the spiritual crisis, the family member who was
physically abusive towards me, literally had me afraid to do much of anything, and that
included anything creative.
So after having fled those violently abusive conditions, and then also having gotten
some initial help with my spiritual crisis, I was
able to start creating again and not just creating and creating better than ever, but
now as all of this was going on. I'm still unemployable, I have been since birth I
am to this day, I will be until I die, because I have medical issues that are
lifelong, and incurable.
So the end result was that if I didn't want to go back into a situation where I was
just simply going to be mentally, emotionally and physically abused, and that was
going to be that I had to live in a situation that most people are in denial even
occurs here in America.
And as bad as that situation was, once I got out from the abuse, it was better for
my creativity. It was better for me spiritually. It was better for me overall, to
get away from that abusive situation.
And I know that those people will deny to this day that they were abusive
towards me. I know they'll deny having stolen from them lying about it
doesn't change what they've done.
But me getting away from them meant that once my creative gifts were
reawakened, I was able to keep drawing and had I been living with them, or
had I returned to them, I could not have kept drawing. I would have had
that gift reawakened all for nothing. The same was true when I made the
decision to get saved a few weeks later.
Obviously, my situation was extreme but there is this sort of sense I've
seen people project over time.
“How dare you prioritize your creativity at all?”
“How dare you treat it like it actually matters?”
“How dare you actually take time for it?”
Every person who ever says that to an artist, and worse actually
succeeds in getting them to put down their sketchbook their pen
their what ever I don't care, their paintbrush, their Canvas, their chisel,
their piece of marble, you name it, I don't care what kind of art it
is. That person is guilty of something wrongful against humanity.
That person has first robbed that artist if they get them to put things
down, and then they have robbed humanity.
Not just now, but down the line. Don't believe me. Walk through an
art museum. Go to a library. Check out anything you can find on great
works of art than imagine if centuries of people had said the exact
same thing to the artists whose work you are now looking at
and they had yielded.
You wouldn't be looking at it right now.
There's no way to know how many works of art have been lost to humanity for
exactly this reason.
There is no way to know how many works of art have been lost to humanity
because another one got delayed, but on the flip side, artists you don't
know either. You have no possible way of knowing, but you do know that
you're looking right now. And you do know that other artists have created
things that still matter hundreds of years later, and you do know that they
didn't do it by saying that their art didn't matter, or it shouldn't be a priority.
So bottom line those toxic relationships might very well have implications
and ramifications far, far beyond your lifetime.
If you're hearing this and you are a creative person, please start addressing
the toxic relationships in your life.
And if you are someone who's in a situation that's gotten to a point where it’s physically
unsafe I'm just going to tell you right now, while still a horrible nightmare it is better
to live in your car and safe from that person who has been beating the daylights out of
you than it is to live with them in even a relatively nice house.
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